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39 on and thereby both would be deceived - they would not see each other in that true light which is necessary to a happy Union - he held that courting should be done when each are abut their duties as far as practicable and that each should unfold to the other their peculiar ideas of life &c so that neither would say after marriage that they had been deceived - he held also that all these preliminaries must be gone through with before commencing to love - I was very much pleased with his lecture and hope I may profit by it - the public examinations were highly satisfactory to the audience -

Wednesday Mch 12th

  Fair and somewhat warmer than yesterday loafed this forenoon - went to School this afternoon - in the evening to another of Fowlers lectures - his subject was "Matrimony". he contended that a man should seek a mate of so near the same temperament of himself as possible unless he should be in some point of an excessive turn for instance very nervous. - then he might select one of an opposite in that point - but let each understand it so that it may never lead to differences but be for their mutual benefit - he gave numerous anecdotes to illustrate this point - he blamed the man or woman who would scold their conjugal partner even when there seemed to be cause for it. - as it only widens the gulf between - and turns trifles into mountains - there should be nothing secret - everything of whatever nature should be entrusted to the other - where such feelings existed there you would find true happiness such happiness as can only exist between beings who love each other, and love truly - he made some examinations which were very satisfactory - a very interesting lecture such as the people of Burlington seldom hear -

Thursday Mch 13th

    A kind of mongrel day neither pleasant nor yet very unpleasant - walked over the river just for exercise - took dinner - and loafed about town until tea time - in the evening attended the last of the course of lectures -